Abusive relationship

I hear a lot of ladies talking about how their relationship is perfect or want to find the perfect match and a perfect relationship. But not many of us want to share how relationship can be dragging you down or about that feeling that you are worthless and stuck. How to avoid Mr wrong. Because not many people want to know or listen of our problems, not many people care,some of them are glad that you have them. Or we don't share it because of what the others will say,what if they start judge you or laugh behind your back. And sometimes you just want to be listen to.
I tell you a story about a girl in abusive relationship.
She was a 20 years old and was living happy life she always smiled, was spending her time with friends and she had a lot of them, when you seen her she always made you smile. She was so glowing. In a group of friends she met her future boyfriend, after a couple of days they start chatting on Facebook and decided to meet. They were attractive to each other, had a strong feeling about each other they couldn't get enough. So they start dating,they spend all of their free time together,they done everything together.
After a year they decided to move in together as everything was great. Couple of months later everything started to change.
He would go out more often and leave her at home with some excuses. She became a housekeeper who cleans after him and takes care of him. All the household bills was taking care by her as he started to make excuses about his money. He would go out sometimes and come back next day without no text,phone call or explanation. If she tried to talk about it with him, his lines would be " you're always complaining,I'm not arguing with you". So she thought that she was to pushy,un-understandable.
One day she met with her friends, what she stopped doing it as she had everything she needs by her side. And they had a girly talk about stuff. She was sitting by the table with the smile on her face and talking how is everything perfect in her relationship but inside she want to cry and just tell that she is doing not well and ask for advice, she didn't do that as she didn't want to show that her life sucks.
Another year gone and things gotten worst.
She wasnt able to be herself no more.
Everything she tried to tell him about her day in work or how well she is doing he would drag her down with a comments like" you never happy, what do you expect or you are where you are because of me I gave you a better life". She wasnt that happy glowing women any more. She felt so worthless and unhappy but she loved him and always tried to find excuses why hi is the way hi is, she would blame herself for everything that wasn't even her fault.
He stopped her from going out,seeing her friends or family and she felt that she don't have no one just him. He would come back home from work throw her on the bed to have a sex and afterwards he would make a comment " you need to stop eating like a pig and start going to gym, look at yourself" or "put some makeup on you look awful". She keep saying to her self that was her fault,she didn't looked after herself anymore and she must try harder.
While he was on holiday with his friends she invited friend to her house. When she opened the door her friend jumped back as she couldn't believe that it was the same girl. She looked unhappy,unhealthy. They had a coffee and start talking why she changed so much(in a bad way) so she told her the truth. Friend told her to pack her bags and live him. But it's easier said then done.
Another year went past and she was worst then ever. He wouldn't give her a rest, she wasnt good enough,always putted her down with everything she said or done. She lost self-belief,all confidents. She want to leave but who would be with her,who would look at her,who would want her she thought.
One day she met her friend while she was shopping. They was chatting and decided to go for a coffee. Her friend asked her what's wrong with you,you don't get in touch anymore,ovoiding me,you look not good"She said "I'm just tired from work,house but otherwise everything is fine" she didn't want to tell her what was really going on.
Her friend said "I can't make you talk if you don't want to but if you will you know where to find me" they just carried on chatting about stuff and she looked in a phone and noticed 5 missed calls from her boyfriend she stood up and ran to the car,drove back home and he was waiting for her there she walked through the door with shopping bags he grabbed bags from her and pushed her against the wall holding her neck he was screaming at her, he turned her to face him and slapped her face. She was all shaking, she was keep saying "I'm sorry" her face was covered by tears. He let her go and went upstairs. She took her handbag and car keys and left. She couldn't believe that this happened. She sat in the car and call her friend she had a coffee with, she was crying and saying" just please don't judge my,please don't judge me". Friend came by her house took her home with her. They spend all night talking about her life. Her friend just listen to her story and said nothing. At the end she said " its your life and it's your decision and if you diced to walk away from him I will stay by your side but if you diced to stay with him sorry I can't be by your side and watch you suffering". She staid up her friends house for a week trying to pease everything together to just be with herself. If she want to talk her friend always was there to listen.
Her boyfriend was calling her texting her saying " I'm sorry,I didn't mean to,please come back that won't happen again...." she was thinking about going back. Next morning she woke up and was getting ready to leave,her friend stopped her and said " so that's your decision, are you sure about this, what will be next time,please stay with me for another week and give yourself a space and time to think about this" so she listen and staid. She was crying every night to sleep and thought what did she done to deserve this.
She was scrolling down through her photos and saw how she changed,her smile changed by tiers,her glow disappeared and most importantly how she felt inside all changed. She couldn't believed that she let all this happened to her and she thought she was stronger than that. She never imagined her life will be this way. She said to her friend" I want to leave him but I'm to afraid I have nothing left" her friend said with a calm but strong voice " what do you mean you are afraid,you have me you have your family and we will support you all the way, you don't deserve a live like this,nobody does, you are better then that and stronger then that" and these simple lines change her. She felt like finally someone is believing in her that she is not worthless.
She did leave him,moved in to her friends house, she was broken inside, she was thinking about him if he is ok or if he is with another women, if he thinking about her. But every time she did she would tell her friend and that would made her feel better as she just needed to be listen. Her friend keep said to her what a strong women she is and how beautiful she is and that would made her to love herself again. She never was the same person again, she changed but in better way she was single for a while trying to know her self again. And she never let another person to tell her or made her feel that she is not good enough. She have a fiance who do anything for her and she is happy but she never forget what she went through because that made her person she is today.

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